It has been two months since the last post. Many things have happened.
1. Chinese New Year
We prepared so many angpaos as this is our first time having CNY as couple. But on the day, I didn't have much time to meet my relatives, so in the end we still have more than half left. I also brought some healthy drinks for my aunties and uncles. We visited them to greet them. In summary, CNY was very tiring for us. We need to go here and there. Our schedule was really full.
2. Europe Lourdes plan
On CNY night, we went to my parents house and gave them special CNY presents: Europe Lourdes tour. I put it inside an envelope. When my parents opened it and read the paper, they became speechless. My mother kept staring at the paper but I saw her eyes were teary. Me and my sister hugged them, said: just go, don't reject this. I also cried that time. Cry of happiness.
Last update about this: today is D-day! They are on flight now, to Switzerland (transit in Abu Dhabi). Hope they will have a safe flight and enjoy the trip. I can't wait to hear their stories and see the photos ^_______^
3. Working environment
Ah Biao, the cleaner in my company, has returned to China for good. There are two new cleaners from China, aunty C***** and aunty A****. But their attitude are completely different. Aunty C***** doesn't like her job since she was tricked by her China agency. She was teacher before and told to work in office in Singapore. So she took the job offer. But then, her job is cleaner in here. In other hand, aunty A*** is prepared to work as cleaner. She is more willing to work here, and more diligent too.
The biggest change in my working environment is my relationship with colleagues. Slowly, I am getting closer with some people that I don't feel close before. It is really nice to have good working environment.
4. My birthday
Last end of March, I turned to 28. I asked some of my colleagues (Indonesia team) to eat dinner together. I didn't expect anything from them. I just want to celebrate with others, rather than spend it with my husband and sister only. But they made a surprise for me. In the morning, before the class started, they sneaked into my classroom while I was still preparing outside. They turned off the light and when I entered the room, all the FDWs sang "Happy Birthday" for me. They also brought small cake with candle. They gave me a present, it was a sling bag. I was so happy that time. I have friends who care for me in here. Thanks God.
Two days later, another colleagues gave me another present, a hoody jacket. I never thought she will give me present as we don't really close. I am really thankful to God that He gives me such a nice working environment. For me, relationship with others is very important since I hate to feel lonely/ignored.
5. Planning to have baby
This one makes me feel very stressed! I know, my parents-in-law are hoping to get grandchild as soon as possible. Either do my parents. We had seen doctor in here (obgyn) but I feel no improvement after 6 months. So we don't see him anymore. After came back from CNY in Indonesia, we start to see Chinese doctor. But, again and again, we feel she is not really competent in this area. We are also tired of drinking chinese medicine everyday. So, we don't want to see her anymore next month.
I am tired to be asked about this, especially by my mother-in-law. Sometimes I think by myself, it is really important to have child? Do I really want a child? Having child in Singapore as foreigner is hard and expensive, is it worth? Many thoughts come in my head. Child is a bless from God. If He hasn't gave to us, that means "not yet". Why do we need to try so hard? Even if we don't have any child in the end, that is God's will.
Yes, yes, yes, indeed I feel stressed because of this. I need to be relax and calmer. I told myself, it is okay, just wait, just relax, God has plan. BUT, it is not as easy as saying :'(
Saturday, April 18, 2015
Sunday, February 8, 2015
What a great year ahead!
2015! This year will be hilarious for me and my family.
I decided to send my parents for Europe holiday this year. Since five years ago (as I remember, or maybe more than it), my father has a dream to visit Switzerland mountain and Lourdes city. That time, I browsed all the travel agents that offer tour to Europe and found only one travel agent that has tour itinerary close to what my father wants. But many things happened: I quit my job, I went to China to learn Chinese, my sister wanted to study art in Singapore, but then after 2 years, dropped out, my brother went to high school, I got married and many more, which made my father has never had enough money to fulfill his dream. I decided to save money to send them someday. But working in Jakarta would never provide me enough saving. So time passed by and I almost forget about my self-promise.
Last month, my parents came to visit me in Singapore. There was conversation between me and my mom. The topic was about my mom's diet which has never been successful. Few next days was their 29th wedding Anniversary. My mom said: "your father ya, since long time ago told me, if mom can be slimmer, we will go to Europe for our 25th wedding Anniversary. But see, until now, never happen, so slimmer or not, doesn't matter"
Then I remember my self-promise: send them for Europe holiday. I calculated my saving, planned to send them next year on their 30th wedding anniversary, it will be great present for them. But on the way of planning, I just feel and think deep in myself, why must be in next year, why not now? We will never know what will happen next. Maybe this year I will get pregnant, next year we will have baby which means additional living cost, maybe next year our financial will not be as good as now. So why must wait next year? Money can be earned, can be searched. Moreover God will always provide His blessing for us everyday, I believe in that. So, plan was changed. I will send them to Europe this year!
I plan to give them this surprise on Chinese New Year. My husband, my sister and I will go back to Indonesia. As we grow up, it is not so often to have full team family members celebrating Chinese New Year. My sister in Singapore does not always come back. Last year, I was also stuck in Singapore because my pass. So this year will be extremely very delightful for us as we all can go back to Indonesia.
I have contacted my aunt in Netherlands. She is happy to hear this plan and ask whether my parents can extend the stay after tour ends. Good thing, the tour will end in Netherlands, so now I am asking the travel agent for extension of flight back home. They still haven't replied. The main problem is whether or not my parents will accept this present. Because the tour will cost a lot of money and my father is likely to refuse to accept this very-expensive present. Another problem is the timing. The tour will take 15 days and if they extend their stay in my aunt's place, will be 18 days, almost 3 weeks leave. Don't know whether my father's company can give permission for long leave.
Ok, finish telling about Europe plan. Now move to another topic that also will related with the Europe plan.
Two days ago, I was so sad. I called home at night (around 8 pm in Indonesia) and my father still hasn't came home yet. I talked a lot with my mom, then my father came home around 9 pm plus, which means it takes more than 3 hours from his office to home. After my father ate dinner, I talked with him. He said, he was very tired, nowadays traffic jam has became worse, almost 3 hours to reach office in the morning, and 3 hours to reach home. And this afternoon, he was sent to warehouse and the traffic was also crowded, stuck for another few hours on the way. So, he said he was extremely tired and want to sleep soon. I didn't talk much with my father, but after he said that, I felt very sad. I just felt, my father is old enough, this year he will be 60 years old and still working in the office. He is supposed to retire already. But he can't and doesn't want to retire. He concerns about my youngest brother who is still in the high school, still have long journey ahead and need funding for his education. I also argued a little bit with him on the call. I told him to quit his job and start a business so that he will not need to spend 6 hours on the way everyday. He always says, he can't quit if they don't have new business yet. If they (my parents) already have a business, soon he will retire. But I argued back him, how come you will have business if you haven't quit your job now. You will have no time to survey, do place research, etc, if you still busy like this. So, you quit first then start up a business. Don't worry about the risks. If you always worry about the risk, you will never start a business. Now you have two grown-up daughters in Singapore, married, and quite stable financially. If let's say, the business doesn't go well, no need to worry about cost living. In the end, I told him to quit the job this year.
Yesterday I called again. I persuaded my father to quit soon, to start thinking about business plan. When I go back later on Chinese New Year, I want us to discuss together about this. And my father said ok, next week, they will start look for place, do survey.
Then I re-think, compile my plan with the business plan in my mind. This year will be great, as my father will soon quit his job, then he doesn't need to worry about the long-leave for Europe tour. He quits job first, then go around Europe for 3 weeks. After come back from Europe then start the business. Yeay, so great! What I should do now is praying!
A human heart makes the plans, God gives the answer.
Commend what you do to God, and what you plan will be achieved.
The human heart may plan a course, but it is God who makes the steps secure.
(Proverbs 16:1,3,9)
Many are the plans in the human heart, but God's propose that prevails.
(Proverbs 19:21)
I decided to send my parents for Europe holiday this year. Since five years ago (as I remember, or maybe more than it), my father has a dream to visit Switzerland mountain and Lourdes city. That time, I browsed all the travel agents that offer tour to Europe and found only one travel agent that has tour itinerary close to what my father wants. But many things happened: I quit my job, I went to China to learn Chinese, my sister wanted to study art in Singapore, but then after 2 years, dropped out, my brother went to high school, I got married and many more, which made my father has never had enough money to fulfill his dream. I decided to save money to send them someday. But working in Jakarta would never provide me enough saving. So time passed by and I almost forget about my self-promise.
Last month, my parents came to visit me in Singapore. There was conversation between me and my mom. The topic was about my mom's diet which has never been successful. Few next days was their 29th wedding Anniversary. My mom said: "your father ya, since long time ago told me, if mom can be slimmer, we will go to Europe for our 25th wedding Anniversary. But see, until now, never happen, so slimmer or not, doesn't matter"
Then I remember my self-promise: send them for Europe holiday. I calculated my saving, planned to send them next year on their 30th wedding anniversary, it will be great present for them. But on the way of planning, I just feel and think deep in myself, why must be in next year, why not now? We will never know what will happen next. Maybe this year I will get pregnant, next year we will have baby which means additional living cost, maybe next year our financial will not be as good as now. So why must wait next year? Money can be earned, can be searched. Moreover God will always provide His blessing for us everyday, I believe in that. So, plan was changed. I will send them to Europe this year!
I plan to give them this surprise on Chinese New Year. My husband, my sister and I will go back to Indonesia. As we grow up, it is not so often to have full team family members celebrating Chinese New Year. My sister in Singapore does not always come back. Last year, I was also stuck in Singapore because my pass. So this year will be extremely very delightful for us as we all can go back to Indonesia.
I have contacted my aunt in Netherlands. She is happy to hear this plan and ask whether my parents can extend the stay after tour ends. Good thing, the tour will end in Netherlands, so now I am asking the travel agent for extension of flight back home. They still haven't replied. The main problem is whether or not my parents will accept this present. Because the tour will cost a lot of money and my father is likely to refuse to accept this very-expensive present. Another problem is the timing. The tour will take 15 days and if they extend their stay in my aunt's place, will be 18 days, almost 3 weeks leave. Don't know whether my father's company can give permission for long leave.
Ok, finish telling about Europe plan. Now move to another topic that also will related with the Europe plan.
Two days ago, I was so sad. I called home at night (around 8 pm in Indonesia) and my father still hasn't came home yet. I talked a lot with my mom, then my father came home around 9 pm plus, which means it takes more than 3 hours from his office to home. After my father ate dinner, I talked with him. He said, he was very tired, nowadays traffic jam has became worse, almost 3 hours to reach office in the morning, and 3 hours to reach home. And this afternoon, he was sent to warehouse and the traffic was also crowded, stuck for another few hours on the way. So, he said he was extremely tired and want to sleep soon. I didn't talk much with my father, but after he said that, I felt very sad. I just felt, my father is old enough, this year he will be 60 years old and still working in the office. He is supposed to retire already. But he can't and doesn't want to retire. He concerns about my youngest brother who is still in the high school, still have long journey ahead and need funding for his education. I also argued a little bit with him on the call. I told him to quit his job and start a business so that he will not need to spend 6 hours on the way everyday. He always says, he can't quit if they don't have new business yet. If they (my parents) already have a business, soon he will retire. But I argued back him, how come you will have business if you haven't quit your job now. You will have no time to survey, do place research, etc, if you still busy like this. So, you quit first then start up a business. Don't worry about the risks. If you always worry about the risk, you will never start a business. Now you have two grown-up daughters in Singapore, married, and quite stable financially. If let's say, the business doesn't go well, no need to worry about cost living. In the end, I told him to quit the job this year.
Yesterday I called again. I persuaded my father to quit soon, to start thinking about business plan. When I go back later on Chinese New Year, I want us to discuss together about this. And my father said ok, next week, they will start look for place, do survey.
Then I re-think, compile my plan with the business plan in my mind. This year will be great, as my father will soon quit his job, then he doesn't need to worry about the long-leave for Europe tour. He quits job first, then go around Europe for 3 weeks. After come back from Europe then start the business. Yeay, so great! What I should do now is praying!
A human heart makes the plans, God gives the answer.
Commend what you do to God, and what you plan will be achieved.
The human heart may plan a course, but it is God who makes the steps secure.
(Proverbs 16:1,3,9)
Many are the plans in the human heart, but God's propose that prevails.
(Proverbs 19:21)
Monday, December 22, 2014
Enjoy your life and Love your parents!
First note:
After came back from Australia last week, I have something in my mind about travelling.
Until now, I have traveled to many countries: China, Australia, Hong Kong, Macau, USA; and I still want to travel more. I like travelling. Our last trip to Australia was the first "out of the box" trip for my husband. He has never gone to many other countries beside Singapore. The farthest he has ever gone is Hong Kong-Macau, and it is also because me!
In my opinion, if we have money, why not we go for travelling? I met some young people (in Singapore) who also have never gone overseas beside Singapore. Hey, life is short, you will never know what will happen tomorrow. What is the money you earned for? I don't suggest you to waste money only for travelling. Always save money too for your future. But while working in Singapore, you can save a lot, then put aside some of your money for travelling at least once a year. Explore the world! There are many things outside there. When we die, we will never bring our money along. So, when we still have time, still young, and have money, let's go around the world. Enjoy our life.
Second note:
Today is (Indonesian) Mother's Day. My mom is here in Singapore with me and my sister. We talked a lot just now, especially about our far relative who has just passed away few months ago. He has many successful children. But when he was critical and on the edge of death, it was very hard to ask his children to come to see him. Even after he passed away, there was commotion among his children about the funeral and funeral cost. My mom told me, when he was young and success, he and his wife also didn't take care well of his dad and step-mother (my grandpa-grandma). So, the point is "Karma always turn back to you". Love your parents and your children will love you too; and vice versa.
I pray that we will not become like his children. I pray that we -four siblings- always love and support each other until old, and will also love our parents forever. And the last, I pray that our children in the future will also love us.
Even today is Mother's Day, but for me, everyday is my father and mother's day. I know they love me so much, they also love their parents so much, so do I.
I have grown up now: married, have job; and slowly it's time for me and my siblings to make them happy in their old age. I hope that I can make them happy to the fullest before they leave us forever someday. Love you mom. Love you dad.
After came back from Australia last week, I have something in my mind about travelling.
Until now, I have traveled to many countries: China, Australia, Hong Kong, Macau, USA; and I still want to travel more. I like travelling. Our last trip to Australia was the first "out of the box" trip for my husband. He has never gone to many other countries beside Singapore. The farthest he has ever gone is Hong Kong-Macau, and it is also because me!
In my opinion, if we have money, why not we go for travelling? I met some young people (in Singapore) who also have never gone overseas beside Singapore. Hey, life is short, you will never know what will happen tomorrow. What is the money you earned for? I don't suggest you to waste money only for travelling. Always save money too for your future. But while working in Singapore, you can save a lot, then put aside some of your money for travelling at least once a year. Explore the world! There are many things outside there. When we die, we will never bring our money along. So, when we still have time, still young, and have money, let's go around the world. Enjoy our life.
Second note:
Today is (Indonesian) Mother's Day. My mom is here in Singapore with me and my sister. We talked a lot just now, especially about our far relative who has just passed away few months ago. He has many successful children. But when he was critical and on the edge of death, it was very hard to ask his children to come to see him. Even after he passed away, there was commotion among his children about the funeral and funeral cost. My mom told me, when he was young and success, he and his wife also didn't take care well of his dad and step-mother (my grandpa-grandma). So, the point is "Karma always turn back to you". Love your parents and your children will love you too; and vice versa.
I pray that we will not become like his children. I pray that we -four siblings- always love and support each other until old, and will also love our parents forever. And the last, I pray that our children in the future will also love us.
Even today is Mother's Day, but for me, everyday is my father and mother's day. I know they love me so much, they also love their parents so much, so do I.
I have grown up now: married, have job; and slowly it's time for me and my siblings to make them happy in their old age. I hope that I can make them happy to the fullest before they leave us forever someday. Love you mom. Love you dad.
Sunday, November 30, 2014
Let's start
Ok, finally I follow my husband's hobby-writing blog. After all, writing blog is not bad, can replace my diary. Moreover, it's convenient, save my hand's energy, hahaha.
Almost one year I have moved to Singapore, follow my husband (Note: move to here on 1st Jan, 2014). I experienced many ups and downs in here. First two-month, I felt stressed because of loneliness, homesick. At that time I stayed with my sister only. My husband still stayed in the previous house and came to visit me only at night. My sister also has to go to work everyday. They left me alone, and I had nothing to do. I was raised in big family, have 2 sisters, one brother, and at least 2 maids at home. Also, we always have pet at home (I miss my dog, Ichal). Silence is very stressful for me. I cried almost everyday. But now is much better. I have job and stay in the same house with husband and sister. I made friend with my colleagues. Some of my colleagues are nice, I like to talk with them. But some of them also keep distance. But overall, I am happy with my job.
After staying in here almost one year and working for 7 months, I have gained weight 6 kilos!!! (remember, GAIN, not loss). Since young, I always have problem with my weight. It's very hard for me to gain weight, even only 1 kilo, even after eating much. Instead, I tend to easily loss weight if feel stressed/over-worked. But now, I feel stressed because the scales is not friendly with me anymore. Initially, I only gained 2 kilos, then again, again and again, I gained weight. Sometimes I gained 0.5 kilo only, sometimes 1 kilo. Whoaaa,,, this is bad. My tummy become fatter. I want to do weight loss diet plan, but I am not used to do so. I never held my desire to eat. If I skip my meal, my gastric will react badly. Hiks.
Next few days, I will go for holiday with my husband, to kangaroo country. Can be told as 'Late Honeymoon' since we haven't had our honeymoon after the wedding yet. Who knows, maybe after this honeymoon, we will have new member in our family. (Amen)
Now, we are starting to pack things, need to shop too. Hope the trip will be smooth, no problem at all and fun for us.
Almost one year I have moved to Singapore, follow my husband (Note: move to here on 1st Jan, 2014). I experienced many ups and downs in here. First two-month, I felt stressed because of loneliness, homesick. At that time I stayed with my sister only. My husband still stayed in the previous house and came to visit me only at night. My sister also has to go to work everyday. They left me alone, and I had nothing to do. I was raised in big family, have 2 sisters, one brother, and at least 2 maids at home. Also, we always have pet at home (I miss my dog, Ichal). Silence is very stressful for me. I cried almost everyday. But now is much better. I have job and stay in the same house with husband and sister. I made friend with my colleagues. Some of my colleagues are nice, I like to talk with them. But some of them also keep distance. But overall, I am happy with my job.
After staying in here almost one year and working for 7 months, I have gained weight 6 kilos!!! (remember, GAIN, not loss). Since young, I always have problem with my weight. It's very hard for me to gain weight, even only 1 kilo, even after eating much. Instead, I tend to easily loss weight if feel stressed/over-worked. But now, I feel stressed because the scales is not friendly with me anymore. Initially, I only gained 2 kilos, then again, again and again, I gained weight. Sometimes I gained 0.5 kilo only, sometimes 1 kilo. Whoaaa,,, this is bad. My tummy become fatter. I want to do weight loss diet plan, but I am not used to do so. I never held my desire to eat. If I skip my meal, my gastric will react badly. Hiks.
Next few days, I will go for holiday with my husband, to kangaroo country. Can be told as 'Late Honeymoon' since we haven't had our honeymoon after the wedding yet. Who knows, maybe after this honeymoon, we will have new member in our family. (Amen)
Now, we are starting to pack things, need to shop too. Hope the trip will be smooth, no problem at all and fun for us.
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